He says that I interrupt and that he can’t tell if I’m paying attention to him,” said one respondent. “I get distracted when my husband and I talk. Many of the 700-plus adults with ADHD who completed the “Marriage, Love, and ADHD” survey said that communication breakdowns were the Number One challenge in their relationship.
He understands that my brain is all over the place,” she said. “My ADHD is still annoying, but now my husband understands that it’s not that I don’t care about anything. When I was emotional or overwhelmed, he’d tell me: ‘It’s fine you’re OK.’ But I was the one who messed up all the time. “He thought I was just being hard on myself.
Though he is “a really nice guy,” Erica’s husband was baffled by her emotions. But now he’ll say: ‘Oh, you forgot, so let me help you.’” He used to continually remind me that I had forgotten to do something, and it hurt my feelings. “I had never talked about ADHD with my husband, who is an engineer,” she said. Last year, she started therapy and began taking stimulant medication. She was diagnosed with ADHD as a child, but never received treatment. Understanding ADHD, FinallyĮrica and her husband have been married for three-and-a-half years. Many of those we interviewed reported that, after a few hard years, they managed to cobble together relationship strategies that work. They take time to learn about their ADHD and treatment options. They worry when their relationship breaks down because of their disorganization and distractibility.īut most ADHD partners are fiercely committed to their spouses, their families, and their relationships. They get angry when their partners criticize them a lot. Partners diagnosed with ADHD share many of the same frustrations as their non-ADHD counterparts. The results were surprising, sometimes funny, and often reassuring. More than 700 adults with ADHD opened up about their relationships and marital problems - what they would like to change, what they would like to fix, what they hope for in the future. What is the other side of the story? How does ADHD affect love and marriage - from the ADHD partners’ perspective? What are their challenges, hopes, hurts, and expectations?ĪDDitude decided to find out. When we read about a “mixed marriage” - someone pairing up with someone who has been diagnosed with ADHD - we usually hear about the problems that the non-ADHD spouse confronts: not being able to rely on their spouse to get things done, the forgetfulness, the impulsivity, the powerful emotions and anger that threaten the relationship.
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